lost, Many of them swing from left to right. Until he's actually doing the work and not just talking and winning your hand back and proving himself to you.....don't put too much thought into what he is doing. Your h is just swinging too and fro.
Focus on you and your children. You are attempting to analyze everything he does and it's creating an emotional upheaval for you. Get off his coaster and plant your feet firmly on the ground. When he's completely baked, you will know it. He's still swinging and still creating a lot of confusion.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
thank you! i have been trying as hard as humanly possible to keep my feet planted...
his actions have been matching his words more as of late. s, i know i need to distance emotionally, it is THE hardest thing to do when there is so much laughter and happiness as a family...that feeling you get inside as a wife and mother...not sure if it is pride or what but it is so very overwhelming! such a feeling of accomplishment and pure joy...
it will be tough, but i hear what you are saying!
thanks for letting me get it all out here instead of to h...that i know would not be a great thing right now!
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
Well I don't know your sitch enough to know if this is cycling or positive movement. What is his pattern?
Overall, though, looks good. Enjoy the good times, you deserve it. If he swings back, go back to enjoying "Me Time'. If he keeps it up, you know you're really getting somewhere. Time will tell.
Just have a plan b if he goes AWOL again, but until then, enjoy the laughter and family time. That is always a good thing, no matter the outcome! Especially when there is kids.
awww G!!!! I tried to reach ya this morning and it wouldnt go through!
Missing you!!!
Snod,Mach,Jack...someone...
please take a sec and explain to me again why we shouldnt listen to what our spouses are saying, why we do not ask questions and why what other people say we dont need to hear either...
having a hard time tonight...in a middle of a BLIZZARD...h leaves...then the phone and rest of peoples crap starts...i have shut the phone off...and answering machine. if h needs to reach me...God forbid he knows how to...
how the hell am i NOT supposed to have the need to question this sheer stupidity??? i didnt and wont..this is a lose lose situation tonight. im worried about his safety...sheesh...
ill just pray that no one show up on the doorstep...or calls my cell...
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
Sorry you are having a bad night! And sorry he is causing you worry for his safety. Try to let that go if you can.
The reason we are advised to not believe what they say is because of the confusion caused by the depression/MLC. They very often are projecting their feelings of inadequacy, etc. onto us when we are not the problem, or at least not mostly.
The reason I believe we are advised not to listen to other people is often people speak solely out of wanting to see your pain stop and think you should take the "easy" way out and not put up with it. If you think your H is in MLC and you want to stand for your marriage, you need to shut all that out.
I hope your H calls you to let you know he arrived safely.
