Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

Sandi - please don't sell yourself short, you too have communicated very well with me and it clicks...I think this is just a case of maybe needing to hear a different way, a little variety, but please, I value your opinions and they have really, really helped me. You, Rocked, and Rabbit have consistently helped me and I your help has been immense.

Quick Update: baby step for me. Last night i didn't do everything for W. First off, I let her car stay outside instead of pulling ito the garage, I didn't even remind her. That was tough for me. This morning she remembered and had to go scrape the snow of of it...again, I didn't offer to do that for her. I also let the dishes stack up in the sink all night, that is a 180 for me and me not letting W cake eat. I continued to let them sit there this morning (we took the day off) and at one point W even casually asked if the dishwasher full (hinting that must be the reason they are stacking up). I just said no and left the kitchen. Aobut 15 minutes later, she took care of the dishes and I sat on the couch reading a book. Now I won't do this everytime, but I've done more than my fair share.

I can also say that since Sunday's wild mood swing, she has been very even keeled, friendly, calm. I have been treated very well. Is it because of the dog? I don't know. Is it because I was eventually firm with her on Sunaday? I don't know. I just know it is much more relaxing and less stressful. I have received no bad attitude, no nastiness, in fact she has hung around me much more than has been the norm. She has not been leaving to do her own thing, but usually suggesting we do something together.

Today I had to take D3 to doctor for ear infection, but W has her now as I had to come into work for a bit on my day off. W actually seems to be engaged with her, good to see. Wall is still up when it comes to us, but maybe not quite as fortified/defiant...but still up as is to be expected.