Thanks. Have realized trying to plan, lay out too far ahead. Need to narrow down to steps as they come.
Gno, robx, you have both laid out the guidelines that make sense, get results.
When W first asnwered demand to not return if affair still going, it was easy for her to say "I THINK I can live with that." She left it open ended, no obligation. When I replied "Let me know when you are sure", she now has to give a definate answer. She didn't like that.
Meantime, still concerned with trip. Working on another option. Don't think there would be a porblem as S24 would be there. What causes me concern that W changed ticket from her trip without my opinion, leaving me an a$$ if I didn't pick her up. Something she could use through the girls, family to make me look bad. I want to eliminate as much fuel as I can, so shes has nothing to encourage any one else to keep the fire going.
W knew the long drive, how much time she could talk, while I'm busy driving. Having planned to leave for business Monday, I've simply moved it up. I leave now from the airport I pick W up from, 2 hours later. Simply routed return flight back to here.
W can drive back w/S24 and grandson. Will give maybe 1 hour for lunch with the four of us. She already has my no option demand if she wants to come back to this house. Now it's up to her.
With Gno's help, have basic boundaries ready to present, if she decides here.
Thanks for dropping in robx, right on time. Working on details of boundaries, and Flowchart. Any insight would help.
