no boundaries, no pressure, she is free to do what she wants as are you.
If you have to pressure her to come home and working on reconciliation, that won't work. You don't want someone who is confused, you can't change that kind of person, only they can change themselves when they are ready to commit to the situation and do the work that's necessary.
I wouldn't make it easy on her, she broke your trust and she has to work on rebuilding it, you don't have to be an ass but you need to be calm, secure and confident about all of this - remember you're worth it and the only way to convey that message to her is to tell her you're not certain she's ready and you're not certain you want that uncertainty back in you life. Tell her to take some more time to make that decision as you need some more time to make your decision as to if this is what YOU really want.
Do you see the switch there?
Before it was all about getting her back.
Now it's deciding if you want her back, you don't leave that decision up to her. This communicates to her that you are confident, strong, masculine, stable man - someone she can trust not to crumble & fold like a weak wussy man because secretly that's what she wants from you or the man in her life that she feels she can commit to.
