Then I got a call from the wife with the SOS about I needed to make a decision or she was going to go buy her own house cause she wasn't going to live in an apartment anymore and she wanted to come home. .... It really pisses me off that I can't tell her how I feel without her getting angry.
My W does that too. Suddenly, it's like the end of the world if a decision hasn't been made. In a way, she is anti-DB in her technique -pursuing and trying to force a decision. Do you blame her? Wouldn't you do that if you didn't know what you know?
Yesterday was my first day to refuse some R talking. I told her what I was doing or what she was, but I wouldn't talk about why, how I felt, why I felt, etc. At oe point, she began, so I said I can't talk about this and I had to leave. It felt good...and saved my 30 min discusson that probably would've been pretty hurtful.
