I could not agree with you more. It is just hard to shake the fear that the collective wisdom of the board is wrong and that I know better what to do in this situation (and yes I do see the irony that if I was so darn smart I would not be in this situation in the first place.)
The other thing is the finality of it. I know that once I throw down the gauntlet I can never pick it up again. Once I draw a line I can't then back away because I then lose all credibility, leverage and power in the relationship. I know that she is the one who chose to engage in this behavior; but if feels like if I am the one to set the boundary that she is not willing to honor, I am the one ending it.
Man this is hard.
Me 36 W 40 S 13, 9, 7 ILYBNILWY 2-08 Discovered EA 3-08 Reconciled 7-08 She says she's been faking it 11-09 She wants to separate 12-09
