I would be interested to find out what impact exposure has if you do it with a smile on your face and making your husband his favourite dinner.
I can't imagine it will be taken too seriously... and what level of exposure are we talking about with the bo-peep/ghandi blend?
Penny Tuppy is even more aggressive she recommends you shut your partner out entirely... disappear until the affair is over. Leave reality totally in the hands of the affair to handle bills, household management. etc... just take off to jamaica and tell your spouse you are'nt coming back until she's gone. And you have someone screen all your email and phone calls and TELL you spouse there is a screen so they don't bother trying to contact you.
THAT is heavy duty... but according to Penny it has success too. Maybe we should call that the Houdini method? lol