Responding is an answer. Reacting is that gut feeling that directs your mind and body. I’m VERY bad at responding!
Another way to look at it is the 'four horsemen' (contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, and ...the other one) get us to react. So I guess I'm trying to say that if your emotional release is a realese and can help you make a response that is calm, you shouldn't worry - it might be very good to let it out.
