Try putting the TV on mute, or -- better yet -- turn it OFF next time she sits down to talk to you. Only do it if it's about something important to her (not small talk, walking thru the room).
Just don't do it during the World Series. I mean, c'mon -- we GOTTA have our limits . . . right? Right??
Limits in deed. Excited about trying all of this and seeing where it leads. Not that she and I are doing badly, but I would like to get on somekind of Mr and Mrs Puppy level.
Done with the book, will reread what I believe are her languages. When I am done reading the book at night I will lay it down open so I do not have to refind the page I was on. The last couple of times the book has been closed. I believe she is reading it.
She has been super sweet lately, very touchy feely for her. This may get good.
Have not posted much on my sitch lately, so just journaling.
Realized that bomb day from last January is approaching, and started to look back at how far we have come. I wonder if she will remember the day like I will.
I think she is becomming comfortable with the relationship and I sometimes wish that she would work half as hard as I am to continue to build our marriage past the good stage into the great stage.
Never, really have given her any thoughtful gifts for Christmas, but the least expensive gift I gave her was the one that she looked at me and said, this is great, you really put some thought in this one. It was a purse holder, she will not put her purse down on the floor when at a restaurant, so I got her these things that hook on the table and her purse can hang off of it. Pretty proud of that one.
The bedroom scene is pretty good, she still mostly calls the shots, as this was one of her complaints against me to justify the bomb that I was always the one to call them and if I did not get the right reaction I was a little S*&T about it.
All in all, pretty good, taking the kids and her to a basketball game tonight, should be pretty fun, she said she was excited about it which is not something she usually says about going to a sporting event.
I hope everyone is well and have a lovefilled 2010!
Since my last update, things were going great until 2 nights ago she unleashed on me. This was the first time she yelled at me since the bomb last year.
The economy has hurt my business and things have been getting tight. She is getting a little stressed about it, but last night she blew up at me.
I have been trying to start a new business and that has taking up a bunch of my time as I think it is something that eventually could be huge. But it is going to take a long time to see anything.
Doing that I have not been concentrating on my first business and it has dropped off, combining lack of focus and this economy it has hit hard on me.
She threatened to leave me and take the kids in 6 months if I did not turn it around. Screamed that I always say it will be allright and it never is.
I asked her how her business is going, she is an interior artist and she has gotten like 1 job in two months, brought in a whopping $300. "Don't blame this on me", she said. She asked if I should get another job, I asked what job is out there that can make $80,000 that I can get.
I know she is just stressed, and I received a $5,000 check I was expecting and have turned my attention back to my core business and will make more money, but it really pisses me off to threaten me like that.
I sat there and validated her feelings that I am stressed also, but I am working hard on both projects but I was relying on other people to keep money flowing in and I would not do that anymore.
She has been pleasant since then, but cold if that makes since. Could be just me overanalyzing her behavior. First time the knots came back, but after that sleepless night of planning to make things better, I have already gotten back on track.
Confident in my every move, told her that she and I are on a spending freeze until I right the ship. This check should passify her until more business comes in, and it will, I have 7 new clients coming in the first of next week to Feb. 15.
But damn, I sure would like a partner, then one that threatens me to get the family more money or she is taking my kids.
I think she was trying to light a fire under my ass, and she gets worried with finances, so that might of been just a talk out of her ass moment.
But she also might know that her threat last year, really improved me as a man, maybe this will get me to give her what she wants in a man again?
Sorry for the rambling, any comments or suggestions.
Just kidding. My W is in the middle of a MLC and it all stems from the same type of conversation. Economy bad, don't make enough money, sounds very familiar. I think everyone in the whole US is stressed about money right now.
The good thing is according to Michelle no one can afford to get divorced.
I hate to say this but IMHO this all has nothing to do with money. $$$ is just the trigger, the stressor.
Hang in there. I am not quite up to piecing yet. I hope to be here soon but not yet. W is still too depressed.
