4luv, No need to apologize for the highjack, please highjack all you want. I’ve been posting my sitch out in another thread too, to try to get as much as advice as I can. I know others recommend not doing that. Nevertheless, the other thread includes my story before exposure of the A, so I keep the latest update in there too. I’ve added a link to it below for you. There is a lot of great advice from Puppy & Allen in there too.
You’ve done great at setting boundaries to your H. I have not done very well with this one. I think you are doing great with the position you are in, hang in there.