Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Thanks for stoppin gby and you're welcome.

Actually, to the contrary, our communication is fantastic now. Yes, it used to be an issue.

In this case, (x)W simply has a gapping open wound when it comes down to the kids and I need to be little bit mindful of what I say and in this instanct I did apologize immediately to her.

Problem is, is that as consequence of the A, the kids fault her very harshly for the breakup of the family. They knew we had our problems before the A and they knew things were getting bad. But it was (x)W who chose to up and have an A and expose the entire thing directly in front of them and have OM live with them (although she claims that she consistantly would ask him to leave at nights and he never did).

So they went from family, albeit a dysfunctional one, to this character in their lives, then to not seeing their own father for months, to seeing me 72 hours a month.

That was pretty hard on them.

So they are actin gout on her. It gets further complicated as I was always the disciplinarian, so she's never really had control over them. So you add their frustrations on top of lack of control and well, we have some catching up to do.

We will have to have a non-interupted sit down conversation. All four of us. A no holds barred, all questions answered, no matter how much the truth hurts get the facts straight Q&A session. The whole time, the underlying message has to be mantained that mom and dad love and forgive each other and that they were never loved any differently by either of us at any time.

EDIT - case in point this morning: (x)W left early for work so it was my duty to get them to school. It takes her more than an hour to get them motivated and up, and usually with a lot of yelling and screaming, often resulting in name calling. Me, I had them up and out the door in 20 minutes, no yelling, no uncalled for attitudes and voluntary 'thank yous' for gathering their clothes and preparing their lunches.