Yes, you are right, Pearl, again. And I know that. I just have to get my head, heart, and stomach aligned.
I was thinking about town meeting,for example. It is still a big deal here in VT. In my town, we have the meeting on Monday night, and voting by ballot on Tuesday.
Anyhow, of course X and I have always gone. Sometimes I have had to speak about supporting the rescue squad. Sometimes he has had to present something for the Planning Committee.
So--do I go this year?
If I am only worrying about me, YES, of course. I can make some friends go with me and surround me.
I EVENTUALLY have to see them together. He will introduce her all around, etc.
The point of this is: when I can worry about ME and not THEM, it won't matter.
So the same applies to the house.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process