Calling out the Piecers

[iwantittowork]

Hey dday, just wanted to stop by and say hi, I have been following your sitch for a while.

Not much to add, but you posted some insightful things in my sitch when I started in StBD, so also wanted to say thank you for that.

So, in a tizzy I commented that to (x)W, nothing derogatory to or against her, but she took it that way.

I see so many things my stbxw has in common with yours, including the table manners stuff and such.

I see now, and see above in your post, the biggest issue and challenge was communication of these between us.

To me, your (x)W response is a direct indicator that your not communicating effectively between each other. I am not saying this to 'put you down' or anything, just to point it out.

I wished I had picked up on that in my sitch early, so I could have tasked myself with figuring out the 'how' of communicating with her.

That has to be owned by one person, at times, as she may not even be 'aware' of how she likes to be communicated with.

Trying not to ramble, but hope my point comes across.