I know this is horrifying but I really do urge you to listen to your attny.
I knew about my H's affair for FIVE months before I said anything and once I did say something I really didn't mention it again. It was hands down the hardest thing I have ever done. My attny urged me on a daily basis to "keep my cards close" and I did but I also know the emotional strain. In fact, I darn near had a nervous breakdown and I don't say that in jest.
It does sting and hurt like nobody's business. I am glad you are going away for the weekend. Take care of YOU.
