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[DDogs]

DDogs,

Can you give us a brief timeline synopsis of your exposure efforts? I follow a lot of sitches, and I need like one of those "in case you missed it" primetime marathons where they catch you up on the TV series so far, so you can start watchin' it more closely!

It would help us help you.

Puppy

PDT,

I was informed last week Thursday, by W close girlfriend that W admitted in 7/09 to GF that the W was sleeping with her boss and that her EA started on 4/09. W (and kids) visited GF (and kids) at a resort and GF tells me W was constantly talking with OM/Boss on the phone. GF says the conversation was not work related but flirty and laughing.

GF feels bad for me because she knew about W's affairs and that I relocated to start a new life with W/kids. This puts the W starting the affair 2 months after we relocated. GF also says W wanted OM to come visit the resort as well but he did not.

GF also tellsd me that last year during a "girls trip" to a getaway spot, they were all drinking and talking with a bunch of guys. They notice W disappeared for several hours. Whem they girls arrived back at their condo, they saw W and an unk man come out of the bedroom together...

I confronted W on Friday about her boss by starting the "I know about the OM, tell me whats going on" after a few denials, I raised my hand and stopped her by saying "don't disrespect me by lying, I know and you know whats going on, I want the truth". eventually tells me that the OM is "just a friend" she is attracted to him, "it's not an affair but more of an infatuation". "He feels the same but he's married and has kids so we haven't done anything, although I would like to", "he 's my confidant, someone I can talk to,,,he's attractive, has great qualities, and I like tio be physical with him"

W also stated that she didn't care if he was married, W was not looking for a long term relationship, she just wants to be a single mom, and not be married to me anymore....

W tells me we tried initially in counseling to see if there was any change but claims I did not, (this all happening while W is involved with OM/Boss).

I tell her she has 24 ours to let OM's wife know or there will be consequences. W immediately tells me, "Ok, I'll break it off", I reply thats not good enough, She needs to know since W,OM and I all know. W tells me now that She will call her lawyer and have me charged with harassment if I contact OM or his W. ( I only have a home address, no phone #, or name)

W begins back peddeling, " I never touched him, it's just a really good, close friendship... she has other friends at work, is she sleeping with them too?"

Lots of denial, switching to some blaming of me and then lawyers up...

this ends with W calling the Police because she claimed we were having an argument in front of the kids and she felt that was child abuse, endangerment....W ends up going to hotel that night....

I call and inform her parents about the affair as well as several of our mutual friends and her girlfriends and tell them that "I know about W's affair, just wanted to let you know that I'm now in the loop".....

Fast forward last night I confront her about her one nighter at the resort and she looks taken aback, laughs out loud and says,"what the hell are you talking about, I never had any affair there!" "don't know where youre getting your info from but its wrong. I tell her, "W, I just want some honesty from you, I know whats happened and whats going on..." she interrupts and says, " we'll I guess it's a good thing were getting a divorce then...!

PDT, her fog/delusuion is so thick, she has her self convinced that she's not doing anything innappropriate,, W says "were getting divorced so what does it matter what Ive done and it's none of your business what Im doing.."

I am on daily AD,, Prestiq.. since 12/01/09 it has been the best Ive used (tried lexapro, wellbutrin, seratonin, and a few others), I also take quick acting short immediate use ones... It doesnt help the stomach knots or the want to vomit, but eases the roller coaster a bit.. The betrayal, trust lost, deception and lies are so much to handle,,, my head spins...

I was doing GREAT with my mindset, GALing, etc up until last week and now I feel sucker punched.. I'm going away this weekend to visit a friend, clear my head and relax.. I know the affair needs to be exposed, My Lawyer is advising me to keep my cool and play my cards close,,, I'm just stinging, hurting right now..