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[Lucky11too]

Wow, that took a lot of strength to avoid looking at the cell bill. That's a good step for you in the road to trusting him again and it shows H your willingness to work on the R and open yourself up to him again. Let's just hope he doesn't abuse that trust.

I totally understand your feeling about you wanting H to basically say b/c I love you so much, I am willing to sacrifice. I guess it doesn't make sense to us b/c we are willing to do that and have been. To me it's like, I don't understand why that is so hard - just give up what you have to give up (OW or drinking or what the case may be) and let's just make this work! But for some reason, I think it's mostly selffishness, they think they can have it all. Luckily, I think your H is slowly coming around to the fact that he can't have both worlds and that you are completely serious and are ready to take action if he won't give it up. I know you are concerned that he is doing just enough to keep from losing you, but since you are making progress, keep positive, but also stay alert to that possibility. Him following thru with therapy would be the first good sign that he is taking this seriously as well. It would be good to follow up with him next week to see where he is with that (at least looked into, made an appt, etc...)

That is odd that he hasn't responded. I know it's hard not to jump to conclusions, but if he said his phone was acting up, then you'll have to give him the benefit of the doubt. I know it's hard b/c you need to do this to start building the trust again, but I know the fear of him hurting you again is very strong. Regarding the facebook issue with him being on, I think it's very possible that it is OW. You know how it feels to be dealing with an OW (now you) and you know she's got to be scrambling. I could imagine her checking up on H' page and probably even your page too (especially since he was commenting on yours) to see what going on. Jealousy is a power thing!

Have a great time at the youth conference. Try to enjoy it and meet new people, catch up with old friends, and enjoy the time with S. Hopefully H can continue to reassure you so that you don't have to have those annoying lingering thoughts in the back of your head all weekend. Have fun!