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I dont understand that. Both options dont sound good to me. What do you mean making him feel safe or because he wants the M? Shouldn't he feel both and love me on top of that?


I agree with YOU Kalni. YOU don't need to make HIM feel safe. C'mon here. You don't need to do ANYTHING except to recognize a true desire on his part to want to be with you and then observe a pattern of making an effort to recommit, do the work, etc.

Please...don't settle for anything less. Don't let anyone here brainwash you into staying unhappy with someone who cheated on you and then does anything short of that article you printed here. THOSE people LEARNED....and they CHOSE to love each other and they RECOMMMITTED...and they DID THE WORK.

Stay tuf'
Sagapo.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;