I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[pearlharbr]

Saw this on robx's thread and thought of you:

Rob,
I truly love reading your stuff..
I am in the early stages, and really listen to what you have told me so far.. Going dark it tough, and I hope that the message gets heard in her head and then she does the pursuing..

Yes it's tough in the early stages because you still are only grasping part of the message, you don't have to hope that the message gets heard by her, in fact, that hope is translated into body language on your part and people can read that and feel that, regardless of what words are spoken or unspoken.

You don't care if the message gets through to her, you start living your life for you again and moving on and letting go of her - when you do this for real, that's when things happen.

Wanting something badly - translates to not having something and it makes you feel bad and that translates into needy and insecure: both horribly unattractive traits, attraction killers.

You don't want it badly anymore.
If you can have it, great but it isn't a deal breaker anymore, not living your life regardless of this situation is the deal breaker - don't waste your life waiting for someone to change and turn around and come back to you, that's you communicating that you don't respect yourself and your precious life and that's not attractive.