LR: He really still doesnt get what he has done to me although I think I saw a glimpse of regret that he had lost the blind trust that I had before.
Sounds like a rough one. Interesting level of denial on his part about the obvious impact the dumping would have on any living human. Gee.
The idea of a time limit is interesting. It's interesting that he tried to spin it into a trust issue to try to make you feel as if you were the one with the problem. Even if you agreed that it was a trust issue and not a boundary issue, the fact is he is a year or more away from regaining your trust due to his own behavior.
Well, I applaud you for attempting to resolve it with an avoider rather than letting the seeds of resentment grow. Doesn't sound pleasant or easy. I like how you said you attempted to mix a lot of validation in. Maybe there's a compromise in the future for everyone that is not apparant right now, though I can't guess what it would be.
