The WAS is very good at hiding what they are feeling. I have said this to many people...pride is an ugly beast. Unfortunately it is also very strong, and takes a stronger person to beat it down.
Your W has decided that she does not want to be married to you. She wants to party and live the fun life. There will come a time where she will question that. It may take some time. I think that many WAS's question and regret their decisions, but the pride beast takes over. They have convinced themselves that they will be happier, and even if they know they won't, they will listen to pride.
I think alot of what the ultimate decision is will be how we, as the LBS handles the situation. The thing is it can take a very long time. Many LBS's do move on. It is human nature to want to feel safe and secure in an R, and if you cannot get that, you will look again.
Two and a half years, and my H is just starting to apologize for things he does NOW. Although there have been half a$$ed attempts at apologies for his past behaviors, he has yet to hit rock bottom. I look at it this way, if it is supposed to be it will. If not, God will lead me in a different direction. But right now, I am content with my life.
You have to be content with you and who you are. You have to be able to look in the mirror, love who you are and know that you will always strive to be a better person. Although we feel as if this decision is not ours, it really is. Inevitably, you can choose to stand or walk away.
But the choice is always yours.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
