I think you need to get away from her and stay away for your own mental health sake. You did not want the R near as much until she walked out. Now you are completely obsessed by it. That is not healthy. You have so much work to do on your own growth before you have a future with her.
I'm starting to realize that too. I guess I was "comfortable". But the strange thing is in between the arguments, I still felt the same about her as I did when we first met. It was confusing...as there were times when I didnt want to be with her but other times I couldnt see not being around her. But I stuck it out because I dont believe in giving up just because of disagreements, and I stayed faithful because I dont believe in looking elsewhere to have any unmet needs met.
It's hard to get away from her when I have to see her twice a day almost every day.
As sad as it sounds...people have put me down my whole life for one reason or another...and I've basically taken it all and just internalized my feelings on it.
I'm gonna head to B&N to pick up some of those books Gardner suggested along with any others that may be in the same sections. Hopefully that will be a good first step in making me a stronger and more confident man. The hard part will be just like with here...following the advice. After being a Nice Guy and doormat for so long it almost feels wrong to be any other way.
I guess I was "comfortable". But the strange thing is in between the arguments, I still felt the same about her as I did when we first met. It was confusing...as there were times when I didnt want to be with her but other times I couldnt see not being around her. But I stuck it out because I dont believe in giving up just because of disagreements, and I stayed faithful because I dont believe in looking elsewhere to have any unmet needs met.