Here's my story..midlife crisis/infidelity

[January girl]

Ok, so I thought that the night before the move was hard but the hard night was last night-our first night without H. H stopped by to pick-up some left over stuff (at my suggestion) and D9 cried and cried and cried and hung on him in the garage to please take her with him for the night. He & I both had agreed previously that she is spending tonight (Friday) at his apartment with him. She needed to be at home last night to study for her tests today AND I'm sure his apartment was a wreck because he hasn't completely unpacked yet.

He was visibly shaken by her outburst...I just stood-by and hugged her and told her it was ok to cry and it WAS sad. I was however firm in holding to what we had previously agreed upon. I believe that she was overtired and a bit ticked off from having to help me with S1 & chores when we got home. The truth of the matter is that I work full time, and have a part time "home based/direct sales" business which I haven't tended to much in the last 24 months. I'm a busy gal so she has to help with some of the chores...that's just the way it is. We did have some good quality time together once S1 got to bed at 8 pm.

I explained to her that once I get him "down for the night" that she and I will have time to visit/study/spend fun time together which we did get to last night. She has a speech meet at school today so we studied for that. Also after talking she explained that she "was mad at me for letting Daddy go but that now she understands that it wasn't what I wanted but what he wanted." I think she understands now that he has issues to work on and that I didn't push him out.

I talked on the phone last night to an old good guy friend who has been thru MLC/depression and he gave me some good insight into the sadness and "wrong turns" that guys in my H's position do. It's funny but even though he & I haven't seen each other in years I have always felt like he and his wife are strong supporters of my H and I. They followed along with us as we went thru all our infertility troubles thru the years. I know they will be praying for us.

H is at our office this morning for a meeting. Here is what I don't get-why is he still wearing his wedding ring? Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to obsess over it but I do find it odd. I am holding my head high and smiling this morning. It was very quiet and peaceful in our house last night. I haven't had peace in so long that I forgot what it felt like.