Pls help--confused and fearful

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I am wondering whether to respond with a thanks or to even bother.

It's his house to. It's his responsibility. What are you thanking him for?

Whenever you have responded in the past he has latched onto it and tried to suck you in. Don't fall for it again DbD. You're at a good place now, but it's fragile. Don't let him see any sign of you being compassionate as he will latch onto it.

I've decided before I pack up any of my stuff in the house, I'm first going to pack up all his stuff he left behind and put it in the garage for him to pick up or I'll donate it. He pretty much left everything. I should have packed it all up long ago. It's been kind of like a death and I left things as he did. Done... I'm over it. Feels wonderful to be free of hanging on. A weight has been lifted.

Another one of the best things I did ... get W's stuff in boxes (3 of them) and get them up into the attic. House is clear of her.

It's a really tough thing to do. I shed some tears. I smelled some clothes to see if her scent was still there. I was nostalgic. It did however get to the stage where I was just chucking things in boxes. Maybe I put too much in there (gifts she gave me, wedding photos etc.) but I wanted rid.

It's like cleansing yourself DbD. It will be tough but it will be worth it.

I was thinking about you today as we hadn't heard from you in a while. Was wondering how you were getting on. I had no need to worry, you're doing great!