What I learned about the process of reintegrating into old friends and family is everyone has an opinion....I found myself often trying to defend myself. After enough conversations with them, I finally realized that "I" am the one walking in the shoes and "I" am the one that has true vested interest so they will dig it or not. Their choice....
(x)W and I also hit a bump in the road about 6 months post reconcilliation and it was amazing how the old way of hashing it out kicked back in. Difference was each of us was able to LISTEN to each other this time. I think this was the turning point for us and solidified that we are "great" together.
DDAY.....sounds like you are gaining comfort in the situation which is a major forward step. I found once the awkwardness of being back together (know what I mean?) faded it was much easier to operate on a much more normal basis.
But, don't forget YOU. I honestly believe that the root cause of most WAW's is the loss of identity. Mine has said as much. I know once I get wrapped in bringing us back together, I lost focus of the work I had done on me. So don't forget that!
Sounds as though this little house you are looking at is a new beginning for the 4 of you. Embrace that...
