Thank you for your wise words. Early on (first 2 months) in this I blamed myself for almost everything that went wrong. i did apologize then, but being honest it was for the purpose of trying to get H to come home. The more I've been able to read and absorb knowledge about MLC the more I understand that this isn't something that helped but pushed H farther away. I also realize now that this was going to happen no matter what I did or didn't do. I do realize it won't make a difference to H and you're right that it might lead to a R talk. Will mull it over for a while.
I really appreciate your advice. Thank you so much
