Getting started again.

[Lost Rabbit]

H4L I dont want to ask to befriend them and be turned down if Im honest.

It all sorta blew up last night anyway, teddy boy was present but I just kept as calm as I could and kept explaining my way around how could we sort this so we were both happy! Orignally I ask him to set a time span on it on how long he would accept that she wasnt going to make any attempt to befriend me and he tried to take the right royal tiddle and said middle of summer, which I said was too long, oh joy Im not having my boundary set to six months do I look stupid! when I said that this was a deal breaker and we wouldnt get any further if we didnt sort it, he threw his toys out of his pram and moved to the other couch. I followed him although theoretically pursuing this needed to be sorted I couldnt allow another walk away from me.. Anyway we went round the houses a fair bit more, it came out that he thought I was setting all the boundaries and wanting my own way. Which can honestly say I wasnt just this one boundary about Sis.. He said that he didnt like the fact I wont move to where he wants to be. Hard as it was I stated that just because I wanted him back I wasnt just going to have the life he wanted and that the reason I was staying here wasnt because I didnt want to be with him but I didnt want to choose him above the friends that supported and looked after me when he chose to dump me. He really still doesnt get what he has done to me although I think I saw a glimpse of regret that he had lost the blind trust that I had before. Interesting but he got it in the neck from sis at xmas about us not dropping everything to go and he did tell her that if she didnt communicate stuff we didnt know. He did try to make it a trust issue and I replied its not a trust issue its a breaking of boundaries issue, and if there was any chosing to be done it would be either me or my sister. I also validated a lot of what he has said previously without him saying it so proving that I do listen and care.. Upshot was we went to bed and I have left him with more food for thought. Its all complicated but I feel that a better understanding is held between us on the subject and I am now given it to easter for Sis to prove her worth. Trouble is Im shattered now, but I do have two weeks off work to look forward too. Thanks for all your hugs and kisses sorry this is a bit muddled.