June, I totally see what you're saying. In my mind I am trying to accept the reality of D for the very reasons that you say. I like what Coach quotes about the Stockdale Paradox -- it reinforces the idea that what is needed is not optimism, but a total acceptance of reality combined with a deep faith.
I guess acceptance is a process? I don't feel like I'm raging against reality all the time, just that my mind plays games to not have to realize the total brutality of what D could mean for me, my children, and my dreams. But I force myself to look at it. And we talked about that in IC, that I need to feel my strength and prepare for the worst.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
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