My W isn't so certain on Retroville anymore...we'll see. I think I might pay the regist. fee anyhow in case she changes her mind.
RE Culture...My W isn't from Canada. I went overseas to study a second language while at university. There, I met a friend who set me up with his sister. We never knew each other (stupid, I know) and thought it would work out based on a couple letters and no direct converstation (yes, stupid...).
I tried having her meet other women many times to make some friends, but never succeeded. She has some aquaintences that could've become friendships amoung our neighbours. One really nice lady she gets along with the best is D, her mom was D, her daughter was D, and her sister was also D. Maybe not the best influence!!
I'll reserve the books you suggested June. I know TTA has mentioned the Mars one, I'll get it but I'm afraid I'll be thinking chocolate bar all through the book!
My family knows, but she'll only tell one sister of hers living in NY (6000km away...) She hasn't even told her mom fearing it would be hard on her. I told her it would be harder if she found out next year that my W had a D but hadn't even told the mom, but she doesn't see it that way. I guess we'd better not D!!
My dad says it never is an option and it's my fault for thinking about it, mom said 'cut your losses' at first, but now she wants us to work it out. Sister/brother/BIL are of the attitude work if you'll both work, otherwise don't bother. So, not much of a two way healthy support system. I have an occasional IC, my W might (hopefully) go to one. She said she would, but she isn't trying too hard. I kind of forced her to go and she 'agreed', but then the counsellor said that she needs to decide on her own. Time will tell.
