I received a copy of my lawyers answer to my W's D filing. My wife asked for basically everything: CS, spousal support, full custody, the house, and for me to pay her legal fees.
Opening Salvo. Lawyers sizing each other up. It means nothing and won't even remotely resemble the final result.
Originally Posted By: Awoken
Our answer basically asks for exactly the same thing.
Yep. I've always thought it's the lawyers' equivalent of the crude street slang,"Eff me? Eff you!"
Originally Posted By: Awoken
My instincts are to sit down and just say what I want, what is equitable. But I know that's not how this process works.
Your instincts are like mine were and like most men's are. Equitable. Noble. Want to be remembered always as having done the right thing. This will only get you penniless, screwed, and a lawyer whose p!ssed and frustrated at you. Obey your lawyer. If in the process anything really goes against the kind of man you are, put your foot down. My lawyer insisted I go after half my wife's pension. No way. No sir. Ain't gonna do that. And we didn't.
The opinion of my lawyer and a couple of my friends (including one or two on this board) is I was stupid. My opinion is I was true to myself. I sleep well at night. Put your foot down if you must towards the end on specifics - whether on her side or your side . For now, let the lawyers do their dance and try to realize you're paying him so you don't have to do it and so you don't even have to think about it (much). It's being handled.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
