Thanks Gardner. It looks like a Barnes and Noble across town has the NMMNG and 4 Agreements. the N.U.T.S. book I may have to order online.
I am indeed the proverbial "nice guy". and maybe that is yet another unspoken reason my ex left...I was no challenge...just a wimpy puddle of a man who kept taking crap no matter what. Essentially she didnt respect me and found someone stronger who she could respect.
And maybe I unknowingly refocused my resentment at all the crap I've taken over the years by not paying much attention to my ex and not going out and doing things with her. Not that it matters now anyway.
"Let/practice letting everything else toxic roll off you like water off a duck's back."
I hope you wont take offense to this but you sound a lot like my father when you say that. I respect him greatly so it is a compliment. He gave me similar advice many times over the past few years when I would tell him and my mom about the arguments and threats from my ex.
and the SD and SP...interesting ways to tackle such a tough situation. Acknowledge that the relationship is already dead instead of worrying about it dying so that you can face reality head on. Never lose faith that your goal will be accomplished, but dont get so caught up in the progression to the goal that you arent able to face reality.
