Glad to hear the attitude isn't out of line because it's setting in deeper as I prepare. 4 C's need to be even deeper for anger control.
Have considered the concern you have for the drive back. Got some insurance W didn't know about. S24 gets back in town Friday. He's going down with me to pick up grandson which is his son. W doesn't know yet. This will leave W in back with GS3. Will create a situation that it's unlikely W and I will end up alone for more a few minutes at any time.
This will put the situation more in my control. If or when W and I have a few minutes, will be playing it by ear. Any mention of R will lead to another boundary set in stone, or untill there is good reason to remove it.
Don't get me wrong, not saying if she mentions the weather I'm going to be saying SHUT UP and listen. But during that drive I think she has things she wanted to say. Can feel it when she's on the phone, but I've been cutting her off. When she does have something to say about R, then I can place boundaries for whichever topic of R she brings up.
Totally agree about how explosive that 5+ hour drive could be. Is why I started to look for other options. S24 finishing out of town trip a week early, a stroke of luck at the right time.
Having completed present contract. Have planned to leave Monday for a few days to check out some out of town work. Let W sit at home, wonder why I planned to be gone 3 or 4 days the day after she gets back.
And yes, I was always there to pick up the pieces, no matter the problem.
But hell Gno, I can't 'rescue' W, when 'I' am the pieces she scattered, and haven't even located all, much less put them back together. But with the help from you and everyone else, I'm beginning to get a blueprint drawn up, so I have an idea where the pieces go. And possibly, in the right order, so I don't have to go back, rebuild too many times.
Going back to planning for now. If anyone has a thought, I'll be checking back.
