Do NOT let him do taxes without talking to your L! I've changed my mind on that one. And consider yourself smacked--talk to HR immediately about chaning your direct deposit!
I think going from your very friendly email to very direct would be confusing. I would have preferred you sent a much shorter message:
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Hi, This message went into my spam again. I just got it. I discovered that spam messages don't show up in my blackberry. Anyway, sorry, just seeing this now. I will check when I get home to see if they sent student loan form yet.
Also, fyi I paid my student loan yesterday out of the checking. Have you closed the USAA joint credit card yet? I used the joint card for my crown payment but will transfer $ to cover that once I get paid. But I won't use it again. Thanks.
If he asks again about this weekend I would tell him that you understand it's important to get the taxes done in a timely manner but you already have plans this weekend. Then suggest a day in the middle or end of next week that works for you.
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Hi Kara, Aver & Pearl, Thanks so much for your input!! Didn't get a chance to login over the weekend - had some GAL - shopping, met old friends for lunch & over sister's who just moved.
Pearl, I agree that email was too long & rambling. However, usually I have been VERY brief. I don't know what possessed me to write that. I was expecting a curt email from H. But, I have not heard back from him! I checked my spam & nothing. So maybe he's mad, who knows. I was ready to get another "we need to meet" email, but havent'.
I got an email reply from L, and she said OK to file jointly if that's what we've normally done. She said I'll have the opportunity to review before filing, which I absolutely will do. I am going to send H an email, telling him this, and also he needs to send me a copy of 2008's return, which he took a while back.
I also will ask him to verify he's stopped the automatic pymts on the joint cr card, & did he close it. And, that I am going to have 1/2 my pay deposited to joint checking, & he should do the same. That acct. is to be only used for mortgage, bills, house stuff. This is long overdue. Thanks for the smack! I deserve it.
L wants to meet soon to go over S agrmt. Yes it's time. I hope you all had good weekends, & are doing OK. I will stop by your threads soon & check in. You are all a lifeline! Thanks friends!! (((((hugs)))))
Glad you were able to GAL this weekend and not have to deal with meeting with H.
Sounds like the tax and finance stuff is moving along as it should be. Good steps, moving forward, taking care of and protecting yourself financially.
I know going over the S agreement will hurt like hell. But we will be here for you to vent or cry or shout to when it is over. And then it will be over.
Every step seems like it will be impossibly hard, then somehow...we did it, and it is done. Ready for the next one.
Let us know how it goes--
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
Don't be rude or abrupt. Just a little more to the point, I think. 