Don't allow her to make you look like the bad guy in this stitch. Don't "accept" being the bad guy thinking it is the part you should play. You are not being nobel doing that. It will hurt your girls and it will affect their R with men for the rest of their lives. They have to respect their father. Please believe me....it's so important that you don't "cover" for your W. She has to have the consequences to deal with.....and not hand them to you.
As for Valentines, don't you think it would be rather inappropriate since that is the day of romance & love? I think she might utter a small "thanks", but I can promise you that she will not like it. In fact, you will make yourself look like.......well, a wuss for caving.
You don't have to be a jerk about it, but just don't go that route. The two of you are talking D. Are you going to give her a card professing your love, or flowers & candy? It just doesn't make good sense to me (thinking as a WAW thinks).
These second thoughts you are having about what you are doing is the fear that is trying to take control. You can't lose what you don't have....and right now, you don't have a M and you don't have your W's love. Actually, you don't have your W....so you don't have anything to lose. However, you have everything to gain. That is what you need to think about. Forget this old R. Forget this old life and the old person you've been. Start fresh and make yourself into a new man.
Opperating out of emotions will rob you of all your energy. Have you seen your doctor about any meds yet? This will make you too sick to work or to continue on if you don't find help. Depression is a killer. Don't let it do that to you, please.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
