She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

I received a copy of my lawyers answer to my W's D filing.

My wife asked for basically everything: CS, spousal support, full custody, the house, and for me to pay her legal fees.

Our answer basically asks for exactly the same thing. I know this is so that we can a position to bargain from, but it makes me feel sick to my stomach.

My instincts are to sit down and just say what I want, what is equitable. But I know that's not how this process works.