Doc, I have to go on what I know. The limit I was setting for our household was a clear black-white issue. He was being disrespectful. The nature of their relationship is unknown. I chose to give her the benefit of the doubt, and allowed him into the household.
I sent my W an email with my concerns yesterday. I wasn't going to address it with him until she and I were on the same page. She chose to tell him about it later that day. I'm not sure what she told him, but he abruptly left. My W spoke with him today, and told me that he never wants to see me again, and is never coming back. It's interesting because I made no mention of telling him that he wasn't welcome, only that I expected appropriate behavior in my household.
My W has no rebuttal against me. His behavior would be found inappropriate by any jury of peers.
I'm willing to tolerate any consequences this limit-setting creates. I have my dignity restored. My W has threatened to increase my chore list.
She is quite emotional this evening. She hasn't felt right since getting the H1N1 vaccine over the weekend.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
