Losing Desire to Reconcile

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Reality is, you are not in this long enough to be at that point, or there's other factors that you're not telling us that make it so.
Point is, yes checking yourself out of the M is perhaps the best thing you can do for you to end the pain and confusion for you and do things you need to do for you, just question "how far should I really go with this?".[/quote]

Thanks DDay I know I'm early in the process and I have been talking to a DB coach. After each session I felt great and motivated to reconcile except after the last session. I didn'r feel my efforts were being noticed. I do feel like giving up sometimes but always bounced back in my efforts. Not so the past few days.

Maybe next week I'll feel differently.

We do have a mutual friend and that friend told me if she came back she would have to give up her new friends.
W connect with an old girl friend on facebook and she's divorced and lives the "party life"
I think the wife felt as if she was missing out.

I thought her friend influenced her decision to leave but she denies it. Funny how a stay at home mom who suddenly gets a new job and friends can leave so easily.

I know we had problems but to go from an argument to "I'm leaving" seems to be skipping a lot of steps.

I don't blame her for leaving but I think she handle the situation incorrectly.

Sorry for rambling and to get back to the quote,

How for is too far where there's no chance??

Do I continue to GAL and not be concerned with W and M? This might show her I don't care and she won't improve herself.
Too much contact might be pursuing and make me look bad.

I guess the saying goes " Everything in Moderation"

Charlie Brown-- UUHHHHGGGGGGG!!