Well Undefeated, mommyhood is waaay more powerful than I thought! I've never loved anyone as much as I love my baby boy! Luckily, I get to stay home this year but will return to teaching in August! I don't have a great support system for helping me with S other than WH. Luckily he is crazy about S and sees him 6 days per week. I have always admired and marveled how wives in the service, like yourself, manage to do it alone while H is deployed! And you have 3 little ones! So honestly, I don't feel sorry for myself.
As for kicking WH out, well I'll always wonder if it was the right thing to do. I've been doing a type of Plan A since October(when he last brought up divorce) but will always wonder if I should have done it back in the spring instead of flipping out. It's just that I THOUGHT he ended it in January so when I discovered he still didn't end it in March, I figured I needed to end the hurt by not seeing him except for dr. appts (I was pregnant). If we didn't have a child, I would have divorced him, cut him out of my life and moved on. Seriously; that is how I've handled "break ups" in the past but I have also never been married before and never been cheated on (to my knowledge).
But, I still love him, she is a complete messed up skanky ho (no exaggeration) and we have a brand new baby. I am 99.9% certain their relationship will end, whether he divorces me or not!
So be sure to let us know what was in the envelope!!!Also I need to read your first thread! Am curious about your affair!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004