total victory. You stupid SOB--you took my entire life, turned it upside down, practically killed me. But here I am standing on OUR porch--and it's mine. I won. I won this particular little battle. You won the battle of the heart. But I have a little piece of your heart hurting right here in my hand as I mow the lawn, rake the leaves, sign in new tenants.
Is that really the story that you want to pick for yourself?
Originally Posted By: avermont
Take the new girl and start a new life. Be a new man with her in a new place. Offer her what you offered me: creating a home together.
Give her the honor and the pleasure of watching and working with her man as he builds a new nest specifically for her. Don't just move her into a fully furnished house, like buying a new couch.
Create a new life with her. Go on, do it. Be the man you couldn't be with me.
How about I paraphrase you and suggest a different perspective:
Take yourself (avermont) and start a new life. Be with yourself in a new place. Offer yourself the gift of creating a home for you.
Give yourself the pleasure of working on building a new nest specifically for you. Don't just leave your new self in a home furnished from your old life.
Create a new life for yourself. Go on, do it. Be the person you can be for yourself.
I would like to stay in my current home, but a lot of my reasons involve my children and the fact that we live in an intentional community. There's something to be said for a clean slate.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
