yes...the cheerleader method hs been in effect for a year, right? so now if you do some 180s of that, it will make more of an impact, KWIM? I will be doing the same shortly, I promise!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Anyways, so, H called to see how my appointment went, wanted the details, and told me how well I'd done w/the program. He'll be home tomorrow night... told me, "I'll call you later, when you get the boys to sleep..."
okay, I'm just wondering, but I'm thinking that if I were to say your H would be doing this about 3-4 months ago, would you think me crazy, or that it would be way better than what he was doing back then? I really don't recall him acting this way 3 months ago.
again, he is a "slow" fella, but I think that is great improvement.
AND, you still haven't played the sexy card yet!!! I really really feel that will make a huge impact! but, I understand the scariness of it.
I really don't think you should go totally dark. elusive, yes, playful, yes, dim, yes. just MHO.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
ST - He's pretty much always been concerned about me, and checked in...
Don't worry, as I'm not going dark. I am just trying not to continuously feed him "attention" when I get nothing in return. When I do talk to him, I'm still me... welcoming of the call, approach, etc..., but not initiating it. Let him miss it a bit. But, not be b#tchy.
He is SLOW! Workin' on that CARD!
Yo Kara!!! Girlpower! Love it!
Newmama!!! I'll be w/ya!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
