"so i am suposed to just keep living with some man in the house" - the "some man" being me - that one hurt....bad.
"W, you are not a victim. You do have a choice. You can live here with me, or you can find your own place. Just because you don't like the other choice doesn't make you choice-less."
Then turn on a dime and walk away.
BTW, don't leave your bed either. If she doesn't like it, she can sleep on the couch.
I know this hurts...but you can't fix her. She is going to have to step up and want to fix herself. As someone who dealt with depression for years, I hate to say it, but until she deals with that, she won't be able to see through the fog.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
