How are you going to proceed in what I presume are D hearings about the house?
In my sitch, being unmarried, VT law will just try to choose whomever they think has more of a need or an interest in the house. My L says I have less than 50/50 chance.
It is great to hear someone saying--I'll be honest!-what I want to hear. It may not be the right decision for me eventually. It may be a battle that I would be wisest to turn from. I just need the frickin time to think, and X isn't allowing that.
It would be wonderful to get the chance to say all that stuff to him--build a new life with her. Treat her right. Let her choose paint and kitchen cabs and all those lovely things. Don't just stuff her in and tell her to adjust.
Wait...why I am I worrying about X being nice to HER? how insane am I now...
Whatnow, carry on the fight. If you did that much work on the house, it is yours to claim.
I am not living with any idea that X will come back and OW will lose, so perhaps that is another diff in our perspectives. I will go back and check your thread.
Thanks for chiming in.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
