I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[pearlharbr]

Talia, glad you found some of gucci's posts. You can check on this thread {I think, maybe this one } for more specifics. Also look around for robx and Steve McQueen. And of course I would never have made it through this without Puppy.

I think you should first run those options by your L first to see what he thinks would work best strategically. My instinct would be to say option 1 because it doesn't give H any options but to do things your way for a change.

The thing you need to know about going down this path is that it is not a ruse. This is not a time to bluff because it may backfire and you need to be able to live with the results no matter what they are. I had no problem with it because when I was done, I was DONE. You have to know in your gut that you're ready to do this.

I don't know how far back you read on my sitch, but I can tell you that I told three different people that I was so finished with BF that I would NOT take him back in the days just before he told me he wanted another chance. I can't tell you that the same thing will happen with your H, but I can tell you that I wholeheartedly believe he would not have asked for that chance had I not taken that strong stand and walked away from him.

For me, it boiled down to this: why do I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me? If you think you will be happier with your whore then go right ahead. I know that there are other men out there who will value me and respect me and treat me accordingly.