I called the court today, and I just need to go sign the filing acknowledging I received them there by Feb 16th and it goes back to her.
I think rather then doing that right now I will go on my week fishing trip next week, come home, then go sign them on the 16th and then use an attorney friend who volunteered his time to do the legal reply and let that get back to her. No real need to talk, send a letter or anything else. Let the process she started run it's course and let her have the responsibility to follow up on what she started.
LFW-That is pretty much what is happening, as far as just in my mind this M is over. I'll be nice and kind, listen and validate, and even hear what she is saying, take it to heart and make sure I am not doing those things that are negative anymore and go to work on me. Many of her complaints are valid. Less now then back 20 years or so ago where she likes to go with the convo, but I can still do better. For my sake, and whatever other R there might be in the future.
Her comments about me still being the ahole of ahole's (she said it nicer then that) but that's the gist, is one I've heard for 15 years. She even acknowledged that I really did NOT say anything about what she should do with her $, but that it comes from control issues many years ago, she just remembers them and it trips a trigger in her mind about all the lousy treatment (this is where the uncontrollable crying comes in, and I do feel guilty about those things.) It just impressed on me that nothing has really changed despite whatever changes I might have made, her perception is there have not been any. Reality tells me that her perception will never change, no matter what I do, and the best thing I can do not only for me, but for her, is to move forward. Always forward. Give her complete space and freedom to discover...I was only a part of the problem.
Indeed the only thing it seems at this point that will get her started on the road of self introspection and confronting her issues (rather then it always being the JA husband) is to be divorced and not have anyone else to blame when life is still miserable ) although I am sure I will always be the reason it is.
Forward. I can feel that 10lb bass on my line already.
If I am not on here for awhile, you'll know my bro and I have been manapped in mexico and my wife would not pay the ransom. (Like I'm really worth anything right now).
