Fast track to her divorcing me

[dday101798]

I guess I got sucked into the R fantasy where she spends more time with me and realizes what a great guy I am etc, comes back and we live happily ever after. I needed a wake up call.

Yes, and the wake up call is to reverse this thinking. She will only realize what a great guy you are, etc, and maybe come back and live happily ever after, AFTER she experiences life without that great guy you are.

She's baiting you along perhaps as a plan B? Or she's not sure she wants to give it all up just yet.

Stop answering her calls, be silent, be mysterious, and most importantly, don't be soft with her anymore.