FM: He said that I am vulnerable to going into a downward spiral, and that I need to focus outward and not let Story #2 and preoccupation with H lead into worry/anxiety/procrastination and further downward.
Sounds like an intersting session. The take home message seems to be keep reminding yourself of story #1 so that story #2 doesn't bring you trouble. And also don't worry about "society"'s story about women and separation. If it's any consolation, "society"'s story turns your and all our H's into living, breathing cliches as well.
