Sorry everything seems to be going awry right now. Also sorry about your uncle. You never know with that, a fighting spirit can at times prevail.
I think most people here hoped that things would turn at the last moment. After all don't we all deserve a "Hail Mary" pass to work out at least once in our lives? However you know that Dan needs some major overhauling and he has to hit rock bottom to see/feel that for himself. You have done what you could and now it is time to focus on you and the kids and being ok for now.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory