Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

I was just re-reading all my posts the last couple of days. I'm sure you want to slap me by now. You've been giving such great advice, but I just keep being so wishy-washy! Why can't I just be strong enough to say no, I'm going to let you live your life until you can step up and I'm going to live mine. Why do I let the fear of his words that he will never talk to me again get to me so much. (Although he does seem to be sticking to it). I'll I can think about is maybe I should say something to him to let him know I'm here and not angry anymore (disappointed and sadden in many ways, but I'm working thru those emotions). But then I go back and forth if that will help or hurt my case. Another thought that has crossed my mine (tell me if I'm crazy) is that maybe he feels rejected by me b/c I shot down his advances twice on Sat and Sun, so he's expecting me to put myself out there again? I'm afraid to get too far removed from his life and get replaced again, but as we keep saying, I can't save him (but on the other hand, I'm the only good influence in his life, so would be the best one to help guide him in the right direction). Grr. Annoyed and frustrated with myself, the situation, and H!