As I said a few days ago, I purchased John Gray's "Mars and Venus Starting over" which talks about dealing with ones pain and healing after death, divorce, or breakup.
While several parts of it are generally helpful with the healing aspect, there are a few parts that actually make me feel a bit more hopeful with respect to the permanance of my ex's involvement with the OM.
Aside from it being a bit of a rebound relationship, which has its own issues, I doubt she gave herself enough time to heal and deal with her feelings regarding leaving me...so that could cause issues in their relationship.
I came to a section about men seking power, and one section was about dating younger women. As I began to read it my heart began to sink, but as I came to the end of it I actually felt a bit better.
It basically stated that men over 40 (he's 41) are attracted to younger women to make himself feel more powerful and a woman in her 20's (26 actually) is attaracted to an older powerful man. But as the younger women gets older she changes and becomes less accomodating.
Additionally, after the hormone rush fades, it is supposedly difficult to maintain attraction to someone who has a different level of maturity unless he is very young at heart and she is very mature at heart. I dont know how young at heart he is, but I know her maturity level isnt even at what a 26 year old would be. (That's not a put down...it's based on an almost verbatim comment from her own mother as well as a few others).
Now of course none of this is certain...and even if it was...it still takes roughly two years for the "in love" hormones feeling to fade.
Two years is quite a long amount of time to wait. So its both encouraging and discouraging at the same time.
