CLV, the W was interested in working on the M in the fall of 08 when I first discovered the EA. In restrospect I do not think she was really that interested...hard to tell. According to her we came close to repairing things but never got there. In my opinion she never got over the OM and thus, I really never had a shot of fixing things.
When she finally did move out, they were back together within a few weeks (according to her). I would guess they were back together at some level long before she moved out. In the research I have done, people typically do not move out unless someone is waiting for them.
I am not suprised about the success rate here; it is discouraging but some have succeeded. At a minimum we are striving to learn from our mistakes and improve who we are. The same cannot be said about our S; that's why people involved in A's and then marry have a 75% divorce rate.
Based on your posts, you sound like a great dad and that is something to hang your hat on.
