TTA, I know I keep telling you to go dark, and this is a perfect example of why.
I surmise that H is telling you those things because he's looking to have a few of his emotional needs met by you. That something my H has done periodically and thankfully I had been around here lurking and read others posts about what to look for. I'm not sure if you should meet his EN's or not - I don't think I'm qualified to advise on that. I stopped early on in this - for my own sanity. Every time I fed into meeting his EN's I also started obsessing about what that could mean. Going dark for me stopped that. I was dark, there fore I "couldn't" respond to those emails... therefore I had nothing to obsess about. You have to decide what best protects your emotions. H hasn't stopped trying to get EN's met by me, but now I secretly laugh when I see that's what he's doing.
WAS ups and downs - for whatever reason - just beat the hell out of us LBSs. Its not fair that we have to be battered emotionally when they aren't sure what they want. That's the hardest thing. I can't speak from experience. My H has not waivered since he left. HE decided that this would be best for both of us, so HE is going to be the bad guy, and HE believes I'll be better off in the long run and HE can't ever forgive me for being depressed.
Truth is - none of this is about me and very little of what your H is going through is about you. Just remember that as you try to ignore the false ray of hope emanating from your email....
You handled it right and I'm proud of what you are doing. Its wonderful to see you starting to truly take care of you!!!
((((TTA)))))
T
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